The advice that The Old Dragon Sage gave to The Littlest Dragon, to ignore the bulling and it will usually go away, is an important approach to this type of situation. The harassment in this story was more like mean teasing and not as severe as some of the hurtful things that happens in our Nation’s schools each day.
After The Old Dragon Sage encourages The Littlest Dragon to ignore the mean teasing he moves on to a more important part of his advise to the little guy. One of the most valuable aspects of our mental make up has to do with having a positive mental outlook about one’s self. That would be hard to do if The Littlest Dragon believed he was a nobody so The Old Dragon Sage begins a conversation about self esteem and his beliefs about himself.
As we grow up not only do we create an operating system that kept us safe during the formative years of our life, during this time we also accumulated a great number of beliefs about ourselves. One of the most common approaches of looking at these beliefs is to evaluate them as whether or not they are true or false. Unfortunately we can always find evidence that support a belief even if that belief isn’t true.
I’m not suggesting that truth is relative and you can make up your own reality and set of rules about life. To do so would be dangerously heading down a very slippery slope. The type of belief that I refer to has nothing to do with topics like, “is there a God?” “Is man basically good or bad?” etc. The beliefs I refer to are the ones that we hold to be true about ourselves, of those in relations to others and to the world.
Instead of looking at beliefs as whether they are true or false The Old Dragon Sage suggests that a better approach is to look at your beliefs about yourself as whether or not they are resourceful to you. Thinking that you’re insignificant, a looser, unlovable or a misfit doesn’t do anything but bring unhappiness. These types of beliefs should be discarded and replaced with ones that affirm uniqueness, success, talent and goodness.
I expect that some would feel that presenting this information to my target audience, 8 to 12 year olds might be a bit too soon, perhaps, but one of the driving forces behind this project is that I didn’t encounter the 12 Great Riches of Life or positive life coaching until much later in life. The question “Why I was unaware of these insights” turned into “What can I do to interject this way of thinking to the youth of our society,” hence The Littlest Dragon and the Princess.